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Survival Strategies
Adoption UK's Survival Strategies are suggestions, some serious, some lighthearted, to help you get through the day, provided by members of the online community.
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Meeting birth mum I think it’s really important you take photos of you all together for future reference and also if somebody is taking pics why don’t they just take a picture of head and shoulders also - I do this when I'm photographing weddings anyway as it often looks nice and would mean you'd have a photo you felt comfortable with showing your child. Normally you would agree with the social worker previously the venue and time limit - normally people say 30 minutes or an hour max. The social worker can facilitate discussion and be in charge of the meeting i.e. if someone needs a break etc. It can be emotional on all sides so don't worry about that - you should make sure you get to talk to your social worker immediately afterwards, so let the birth mum go first and you can have a chat with your social worker about how it went etc. Standard questions could include favourite song she used to sing to child, lots of favourite questions, maybe asking about any little quirks you've noticed in your child – did they do them then etc. It should flow after the initial awkwardness of it. It doesn't have to last a long time though.
from lynne_safc
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